Dear
Friends and
Family:
Dec. 2016
We
like to start off each Shabbat (Friday evening) here at Hillel,
before we light the candles, sharing any good news from the past
week. You can imagine that, with a sanctuary filled with IU
students, people are somewhat reluctant to share. But as soon
as one student breaks the ice, the good news flows. Last week
one of our G.U.C.I. alums, Tony Satryan announced that he had been
accepted to Johns Hopkins grad school. That’s REALLY BIG news
and great to hear. Congrats to Tony. Tony’s sharing was
followed by others telling that they would be studying abroad next
semester, that one had landed a much-desired internship and on and
on. It’s a great way to end the week and a great way to begin
Shabbat.
My
own good news was years in the making. I shared a smidgen.
Last month I traveled to Atlanta to officiate at the Bar Mitzvah of
Linda Ross Brenner’s son Josh. I started rubbing elbows with
the Ross family from West Virginia in the mid 70’s at what was then
Union Camp Institute (good old UCI). Linda was a camper, a
member of camp’s first Avodah crew, staff member and finally my
administrative assistant. So she was mainstay at camp.
With a most dynamic personality, everyone knew Linda. She was a
force (or maybe I should say the force was with her…and maybe a bit
intimidated by her). Not only was it emotional for me to
“rabbi” the Bar Mitzvah, but Ian Silver led the music. Ian
preceded me at camp. He was already entrenched in UCI when the
Klotz’s arrived in 1975. Subsequently Ian spent many summers
song leading and teaching drama. Ian was a major player in the
music of our camp. Assistant song leader under Mike Weinberg
and then mentor to Lee Freedman (In a musical way, Weinberg begot
Silver, Silver begot Freedman, Freedman begot Cincinnatus, and on and
on). Ian helped lay the foundation for the great music and
singing that has always been an integral part of G.U.C.I. Years
after he left camp he returned to visit and ended up marrying my then
administrative assistant Judy Benjamin Abramson. You see how
connected all of these lives are. I officiated at Ian and
Judy’s wedding, which took place in the outdoor chapel at camp.
So
I am participating in the Bar Mitzvah of the son of a very long-time
friend, standing next another very long-time friend (and his
guitar). How good is that? I wouldn’t have been able to
do it justice sharing it in a sentence or two at Hillel.
Last
weekend I journeyed to Dallas to take part in the installation of
long-time staff member and former program director, Rabbi Dan Utley.
Dan and I worked together for years, created programs, played music, solved problems, and always laughed a lot.
It seemed to me that, just a minute ago, Dan was just a kid. Now it’s Rabbi Dan Utley. That’s another wow moment. In addition Alan Goodis, who began coming to camp when he was just three (his mom was on faculty) did the music and Jacob Pactor was in the congregation. I spoke that night about core values we learn at camp. The service was followed by a song session complete with slides on a screen so all could sing along. At one point Alan came up to me and asked if I was ready to tell a story. Dan had asked in advance if I might do so. When I told Alan it was a go, well, the next slide was a picture of a campfire. Perfect. By the way, Dan, Alan, and Jacob met in cabin 11, their first Shoresh session (Shoresh is the youngest unit at camp). They were each eight years old. That’s friendship.
It seemed to me that, just a minute ago, Dan was just a kid. Now it’s Rabbi Dan Utley. That’s another wow moment. In addition Alan Goodis, who began coming to camp when he was just three (his mom was on faculty) did the music and Jacob Pactor was in the congregation. I spoke that night about core values we learn at camp. The service was followed by a song session complete with slides on a screen so all could sing along. At one point Alan came up to me and asked if I was ready to tell a story. Dan had asked in advance if I might do so. When I told Alan it was a go, well, the next slide was a picture of a campfire. Perfect. By the way, Dan, Alan, and Jacob met in cabin 11, their first Shoresh session (Shoresh is the youngest unit at camp). They were each eight years old. That’s friendship.
Wait,
there’s more.
I
left Dallas and flew to Chicago to meet up with Dr. Lee Freedman,
Rabbi Jim Bennett, and Rabbi Sandford Kopnick for our yearly Chicago
Bears celebration. Sandford was also in that first Avodah group
with Linda and Jim was their unit head (I’m talking 1979). Sandford and Jim were each multiple-year program directors; Lee was long-time
song
leader, unit head, and even returned years later to be camp doctor. It is
hard for me to remember a time when I didn’t know these fellows.
Our friendship is golden. They are a treasure, period.
Watching
kids grow up, working side by side with other staff members, bonding
is all part of the magic of camp. I’m sure this relationship
building happens at every camp. It is certainly a main course
at G.U.C.I. This month has been special for me to see my staff
members grown, doing good work, being good for each other. I
was a part of each of their formative years. Our joint camp
staff experience cements the bond. There are many more of
you out there. But these were the people that I met up with in
just one month. It means a lot to me to see our kids succeed
and to see how they remain close friends over the years. In
Hebrew we call it Shomrim Al Ha Kesher; guarding the connection.
Makes me proud.
Starting
off Shabbat by sharing good news is a nice thing to do. I’m
sure we will continue to do so. This week I could have shared a
lot more, but it would have taken me all the way to Havdalah
(Saturday night) to tell the whole story.
So
let's all be “Shomrim Al Ha Kesher,” treasure these old
friendships, and keep in touch.
Ron
This made me smile up down and sideways! It was such a joy to work with you once more for just a little while, doing just a little of what we did all those years ago, that made me who I am today.
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ReplyDeleteWonderful telling of what was obviously a great month for you! Everything truly is connected.
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